G for Generation Gap

By - sneha
08.04.19 05:09 PM
You are very different in terms of your characteristics and your behaviour in comparison to your parents. Your thinking and your doings are so different, such that one doesn't understand the doings of the other anymore. How hard can it be to adjust in a home where there is too much of generation gap between the different generations living there? I could call it a hell. 

There would be constant arguments and difference in opinion. Unless one generation decides to let go of their opinions and make way for that of the newer generation, it would turn out to be a constant battle field. As your time is up, so does your opinions and beliefs too. And accepting that is the biggest achievement that one can make in their old age, to live a peaceful and happy life. Today's generation is supported by facts and proper study when placing out an opinion. I don't see a reason why they should give up on their beliefs which are rock solid with evidence when compared to what the older generation has to share in terms of superstitions mostly. When I know I am right, then there is no way that I will give up on it. 

At the same time if I realise that what I am saying or doing is wrong then I will make sure to apologise for my mistake. But the older generation doesn't work this way, they on the other hand feel that just because they are older, have to be listened to and all their suggestions have to be considered. They can't accept their mistakes. As time goes by, your very own children start to rebel against you because of this behaviour of the older generation. Unless you make way for them to come up, accept their ideas, things will go down hill. 

As soon as I had Mikhail and Michelle, my grandmom and mom had so many advices. As a new mom I believed all of it, just because I never had the time to factory check all that information. Later on when I got into routine and finally made some time to go back and check out the information provided, most of it turned out to be superstitions without any proven evidence. Rest of it was just absurd and only God knows how they came up with such explanations. Don't eat bitter-gourd while breastfeeding because your breastmilk will turn bitter. Don't eat too much spicy food because your child will burn their stomach. 

If your baby has colic, then mother should eat asoefetoeda to reduce colic in the baby. If baby gets hiccups, take a thread and keep on the cranial opening of the baby and it will stop. The list of weird things just keeps going on and on. Most of it is false. 

So I suggest do your research before hand so that no one can fool you, unlike how I happened to be fooled. I tried telling them that none of this made sense but they weren't ready to accept it. So fine, I would not teach my kids anything from this list. That's all I can do, while I continue to live a generation that is never ready to accept the truth. 

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sneha